Pursuing excellence is challenging work. However, as women, we are often taught to hide our success or ‘tone it down’. But I am here to tell you that you should never be ashamed of the challenging work you’ve put in to get where you are. Let’s put an end to the suppression. Celebrate your success even when others feel ‘intimidated’ by it.
It takes demanding work to be successful at anything. There are long hours, constant self-development and learning, and often short-term sacrifices that must be made. Even the bible recognizes this and tells you to enjoy the fruits of your labor (see Ecclesiastes). Hell, even the government gives you a day off because they know of the work you’ve been putting in. So why do you think that it’s not ok to look back on and celebrate the successes in your life and how far you’ve come?
One reason why so many people try to suppress their success is the fear of being ‘ousted’ or criticized. Let’s face it, people often try to point out the flaws of those who are successful. It’s why we have blogs dedicated to celebrities and why we always find out the dirt or crazy family member of someone running for office. People love mess and trying to put down those who are trying to do better. One thing they miss however is success does not equal perfection. Many successful people will tell you that they are not perfect and are full of flaws. However, what separates them from everyone else is that they accept these flaws and create strategies so they do not interfere with them pursuing excellence. Do you know how much work it takes to identify your flaws, expose them to yourself, and then actively try to work on them? And you’re telling me I can’t celebrate that? Please.
Celebrating your success does not mean you are not grateful or humble. In fact, it is the exact opposite - dependent upon how you go about it. If you’re being all Floyd Mayweather about it (yes, I said it) then yes, a little humble pie would serve you good. But if you are honestly grateful it shows in your celebration. There will be a little less mention of you and more so of the people around you that helped you achieve success. I don’t care what anyone tells you, people do not succeed just on their own. There is always someone who pushed them further, whether they be a good or bad influence. The mentor that showed you the ropes, the mother or father that did not support you so you learned self-reliance...good or bad, there is always someone motivating you.
If you have trouble accepting or celebrating your success, it could be due to some of the preconceived notions of success that we discussed above or, other negative thoughts and feelings that you have and may not even know about. All this negativity and feeling of not being worthy can cause clutter within you not allowing you to let more success in. To help motivate you and support you on your success journey I am creating the Make Room for Success Challenge. In this challenge, I will help you:
- Define success (it’s not what you think it is)
- Identify areas and people holding you back
- Explore negative feelings and beliefs that society has about ambitious women and how to combat them
- Learn how to get out of your own way
- Discover what YOU really want for your life vs. what friends, boyfriends (present or future), or even strangers want for you
- Deliver yourself from other’s opinions and live life on your own terms!
You will leave the challenge with a changed mindset that will allow you to make room for success. To be one of the first to find out when the challenge launches, sign up below!
So, let’s make a promise today. We are no longer going to suppress our successes. We will share them in hopes to inspire others. And we will celebrate them acknowledging those who have helped us along the way.
How do you celebrate your successes? Have you ever felt obligated to keep the remarkable things that you have done to yourself? Let me know about it!